Norma Cappiello Carr

norma cappiello carr

July 3, 1923 ~ May 12, 2021

In lieu of flowers, memorials can be directed St. Ann’s Catholic Church Building Fund and the Hand County Library.

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Norma Madeline Cappiello Carr, 97, of St. Lawrence, surrounded by family was welcomed into paradise by the angels early Wednesday, May 12, 2021 at the Avera Hand County Hospital in Miller.

Celebrating the journey of an extraordinary woman will be 10:30 a.m., Monday, May 24, 2021 at St. Ann’s Catholic Church, Miller, with Father Paul Josten, celebrant.  Burial will follow at Beulah Cemetery, rural St. Lawrence.  A rosary will be held at 4:30 p.m., Sunday, May 23, 2021 followed by a 5:00 p.m. prayer service, all at the church.

Norma was born July 3, 1923 to Italian immigrants, Salvatore Cappiello and Gilda (Signorelli) Cappiello.  Norma was the third of five children.  She grew up in an extremely close knit Italian family with her cousins being her closest friends.  Her father was a baker, and her mother a seamstress.  Norma attended elementary and middle school at St. Mary’s Catholic School where the nuns taught her penmanship which continued to be her trademark all her life as well as being an exceptional speller. She graduated from East High School in Auburn, New York.   After a tearful departure, her parents put her on a bus to head off to nursing school- three miles from her home- at Auburn Memorial Hospital.  There Norma flourished and graduated with a diploma degree in nursing.  She became head surgical nurse at Auburn Memorial Hospital.  She met the love of her life at the Starlight Bowling Alley outside of Auburn.  When Wayne (an Air Force Air Man) walked into the room, Norma’s best friend told her “there’s the guy for you Cappy”.  It was an instant attraction as Wayne stood 6’7” tall and Norma 5’2”.  They were married a short time later on January 17, 1953 at St. Mary’s Catholic Church in Auburn, NY.  On their honeymoon they attended the inaugural parade of President Eisenhauer, where they were within touching distance of the president.  From Auburn, New York they moved to Wayne’s family farm north of Vayland, South Dakota, then onto to Melrose Park, Illinois, where Wayne attended National Chiropractic College in Lombard, Illinois.  Norma supported the family working as a surgical nurse.  Following Wayne’s graduation from Chiropractic College, they moved to Miller, South Dakota and established what is now known as Carr Chiropractic Clinic in 1959.  In 1992, they moved out to the family farmhouse north of Vayland, South Dakota.

To this union five children were born: Deb, the only child born in New York; John, Chris, Wayne, and Joe, who were all born in Miller, South Dakota.  Norma devoted her life to raising her children and later worked with her husband at the clinic that they established together.

Norma never stopped learning.  Wayne taught her to drive a car, her children taught her how to ride a bike, and Luella Schultz taught her to swim.  All luxuries she never experienced in her childhood.  To the day she passed, she was always learning and teaching.  She had the ability to touch people in unique ways with her passion for life which was demonstrated over the course of her 97 1/2 years.

During her 60 plus years in Miller, she was a member of Coral Lanes Bowling League, Miller Country Club, Miller Music Parents, South Dakota Chiropractors Auxiliary, (President/Vice President), Dreamers Choral Organization, Miller Booster Club, Founder of the modern-day Homecoming parade, and initiator of “after graduation” parties.  She was an avid sports fan from watching her children and grandchildren to establishing brackets for the NCAA Basketball Tournaments.  Secretly hoping Duke and Syracuse would be in the final game. She claims this last 2021 NCAA game was the best game she ever watched.  She loved all types of music, musicals, old movies, and Frank Sinatra and Dean Martin were some of her favorites. 

Norma's nonwavering faith was the root of all her goodness.  Her Catholic faith was extremely important to her.  Norma had a role in the church her entire life, from a little girl in a Catholic school to serving as CCD teacher and principal.  In her 60+ years at St. Ann’s, she was a member of St. Ann’s Choir and St. Ursula’s Altar Society.  She spent the last several years facilitating the prayer calls and felt privileged to be in such a role. Norma was an avid reader, as she recently visited the library checking out 3 books that promised to take her on new adventures.  She was a proud member of the same bridge club for 60 plus years, which kept her mind so keen.  Norma was a several decade members of the P.E.O. sisterhood.  She cherished the deep friendships she developed through P.E.O. Chapter AK, and bridge club. 

Norma excelled in supporting all her children and grandchildren through the many passions and difficulties in their lives.  Tending her legacy and preserving her stories are her children: Deborah of Spearfish, SD; John (Michelle) of Miller, SD; Chris (Jim) Keeter of St. Lawrence, SD; Wayne (Kathy) of Huron, SD; and Joe (Lisa) of Huron, SD; grandchildren: Josh (Bridget), Hans Nelson, Bjorn (Devon) Nelson, Taylor (Brooke), Lucas, William, Caleb, Sarah, Samuel, Peyton, Annie (Landon) Gatzke, Isaac, and Chloe; great-grandchildren: Noah, Avery, Finley, Harrison, Halloway, Crosby, Elsie; and numerous nephews and nieces. 

Norma was preceded in death by her parents; sisters, Mary and Delores; brothers, Joseph and Michael; husband, Wayne; grandson, Beau Keeter; granddaughter, Nikki Carr; and numerous relatives and dear friends.

Reck Funeral Home of Miller has been entrusted with Norma’s arrangements. 

A Wake was held on May 23, 2021 at 5:00 PM at St. Ann's Catholic Church, 709 East 4th St. in Miller, South Dakota 57362
A Funeral Mass was held on May 24, 2021 at 10:30 AM at St. Ann's Catholic Church, 709 East 4th St. in Miller, South Dakota 57362
The Rosary was said on May 23, 2021 at 4:30 PM at St. Ann's Catholic Church, 709 East 4th St. in Miller, South Dakota 57362
A Graveside Service was held on May 24, 2021 at 2:30 PM at Beulah Cemetery, 369th Ave in St. Lawrence, South Dakota 57373

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  1. My sincere sympathy to the family of Norma Carr.

  2. Norma was a special lady and friend. Her family was the most important part of Norma’s happiness. She is an Angel watching over her loved ones. 

  3. Shoo Doherty good your looks she was a lovely lady

  4. So sorry to hear of your moms passing John. I didn't know her but have heard a lot of good things about her. She will be looking down and watching over you now.

  5. Sorry for your loss
    Our Deepest Sympathy
    Dr. Dick and Kathy Splichal

  6. Sorry for your loss. Your mom was a very special lady. 
    May she Rest In Peace. 🙏

  7. Thoughts and prayers for you and your family!!

  8. So sorry for your loss.. Thoughts and prayers!

  9. Sorry for your loss, thoughts and prayers are with the Carr family's, Norma was a special person, she will be missed by all!

  10. SORRY TO HEAR OF THE PASSING OF Y0UR MOTHER

    WAYNE AND RITA NELSON

  11. Our sincere condolences to the Carr family. We always enjoyed seeing Norma, who showed interest in our family and pride in hers. She was very neighborly during our short time in the Vayland area, and we were always glad to see her smile. Prayers for comfort for the family in the midst of grief and we pray you will be able to share in treasured memories and remembrances as you share in your grief together. Blessings.

  12. Norma's obituary is a beautiful tribute to a beautiful lady. What a life she lived and what a legacy she has left behind. It is hard to lose a parent but I am certain that your many memories will be a comfort to you all in the days & weeks ahead. She is a peace now with other family members, we can only imagine the joy she experienced at seeing Beau & Nikki once again and uniting with "the love of her life"! You are all in my thoughts & prayers as you prepare to say goodbye.

  13. What a great person Norma was, delightful and devoted! I always enjoyed the times we worked on various projects at St Ann's Church and CCD when we lived in Miller. My sympathies to her family. Dwana Kolda 

  14. I am so sorry for your loss. Norma was a wonderful, sweet, gentle, caring woman who will be missed.

  15. Thoughts and prayers for the Carr family!!!
    Marcia and Loren Stulken

  16. so sorry to see your mother has passed John. She sounded like a very nice lady.

  17. Dear Carr Family, My sympathy to all in the loss of your Precious Mother and Grandmother from her life on earth!! May God comfort and sustain All!! Sincerely, Randy and Family

  18. Sending our thoughts and prayers to the family.

  19. What a beautiful obituary, Norma was a very special lady. She and I used to kid each other about "bling" she always complimented my latest and I hers. I will remember her forever in my memories of all the sports we attended and what a beautiful, kind soul she was. I know the gates of heaven opened for his Angel Norma. I will keep all of your family in my prayers.

  20. Dear Carr family-
    My deepest sympathies to ALL of you on the loss of Dear Norma! I met her at Idea's when I moved to Miller in 1971. I know her as a kind and gracious lady who I always enjoyed visiting with! Even after I moved to Huron or visited St. Ann's in Miller for Mass she always made sure she said Hello and visited briefly. May she RIP and may God's love comfort all of you! HUGS and BLESSINGS!!

  21. Deepest condolences to all of Norma's family. Norma was a great lady and friend to all who knew her. She will be missed. My mother said she lost a great "paison" when she heard about Norma passing away. We are keeping you all in our thoughts and prayers. God Bless!!

  22. Norma's family,
    My deepest sympathy to all of you. What a remarkable woman! You all have so many memories to remember & share.
    May God keep you all in His care.
    Judy Ann Barnard

  23. So sorry to hear of Norma's passing. She was a thoughtful person always caring. Thoughts and prayers for the family.

  24. We are so sorry for your loss. Cherish the memories and each other.❤️🌹

  25. Didn’t know Norma personally but she sure raised some great children!  Sorry for your loss.  Our prayers will be with you today!

     Love, Lynn and Peggy

  26. The world lost one of its brightest lights when we lost Norma. She will be forever remembered for the light of love she shined on our world! Our deepest sympathies to all of the family members. God Bless you all!


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